Being single and parenting well is attainable for most single parents, but it often takes more time and effort than for two parent families. Yet being single and parenting presents some amazing and unique opportunities for single parents that, if managed correctly, can lead to incredible, productive, healthy and successful children and families.
Single and Parenting Can Go Together!
Many people automatically issue that being single and also a parent does not go together, but this is simply untrue. Granted, many single parents struggle to bring their children up effectively, and this is made worse if they are the sole breadwinner as well! Remember, bringing up kids was designed to be done by two parents, so that the load and the pressures could be shared, so doing it as a single is definitely more difficult.
That being said, you are better off being single and facing the stress of being a parent without help than trying to do it with a non-supportive or even disruptive partner in your life. If your partner is constantly undermining the decisions you are making or your attempts to discipline, then doing things alone and a single parent could be a better option for you and for your child.
However even single parents face the possibility of interference from a disruptive or non-supportive partner, even if they are divorced or separated. Many times parental decisions or moral rules are made, only to be underdone when the child visits the other parent! This is one of the aspects that make raising children as a single more difficult, so if this is the type of situation you find yourself then make sure that you are communicating well with your estranged partner, especially on matters concerning discipline and the social or moral standards you want your child to grow up with.
While many young single mothers or fathers struggle to come to grips with the concept of giving up their own rights and desires in life for their child, this is by no means a universally true stereotype. Many mothers and fathers who find themselves alone and bringing up their children show more dedication and more devotion to them simply because they recognise that if they don’t do it nobody else will! If they are not on welfare but also responsible for bringing money into the family, they have to have help to properly parent the kids, which can cause more stress in their life because it means that another external influence has to be dealt with.
Yet there is ample evidence that the children of single parents can grow up to become productive and successful members of society, despite the limited time and resources available to them in their family situation. A wise parent will realize that they do not have to compromise their morals, beliefs or style of discipline just because they are doing the job alone! They may have to dig deeper and work harder, and they may have to give up some of the pleasures they might enjoy like socializing or traveling, but they can still be effective in their parent role and bring a positive influence to their children.
In other words, being single and parenting well is definitely possible, it just takes more time and effort, and a dedicated mom or dad can and will succeed if they persevere.