There seems to be some opinion in society that single parent families headed by women are doomed to failure, but that is not only untrue it is offensive to a huge number of amazing moms who are becoming incredible, productive and successful parents on their own!
Don’t Stereotype Single Parent Families Headed by Women!
To head up a family alone is a challenge, particularly so if you are a woman who is holding down a job to provide for the family. Many of these incredible new parents are very young, and statistics show that 8 out of 10 of the fathers do not stay in a relationship with the mom, so many of these young girls are doing it alone with their child.
Yet most of these girls do not fit the stereotype. They are not irresponsible, they do love their child and do not leave their babies at home to go out and party. Their kids are not totally out of control! For the majority of these parents, they take up the challenge to become great moms and rise to the occasion, putting their lives and dreams on hold. In fact, fewer than 10% of them will ever graduate college because they put parenting first!
Another challenge faced by single parent families headed by women is that they must make all the major decisions alone. They have to be both father and mother to their children, and they have to cope alone with difficult tasks like disciplining and encouraging their kids. Do they get it right all the time? Of course not, but many couples make mistakes too. The tragedy is that, without a marriage partner, society tends to be harsher on these people in nearly every country and society, even though we often lack all the information about their personal lives.
What these moms don’t need is your pity, and they especially do not need your criticism! They need your love and support, because by having their child they have made a conscious decision to put their own dreams and desires on hold and invest the best years of their lives into their children.
Many of them stand alone trying to fulfil the role of both parents, and they often do so pretty well. Discipline is never easy, especially as your kids grow and experience life, so anything you can offer to help them with a child would be an investment in the future of your nation!
If you know a single mom who is struggling, why not offer a hand in love before you criticise them? Why not adopt a child for a few hours when mom is tired or frustrated. Maybe you could just sit and share a coffee with the mom, and talk about how she can care even better for each child.
These moms are not villains, they are real parents and they are heroes and worthy of your love, your support and your admiration. They have put their kids ahead of their own selfish interests, and while they may not cope well all the time, at least they are trying to make a better life for their offspring. Single parent families headed by women can succeed, and you can help them if you decide that you are willing to invest some time and effort into the future of these precious moms and their families!