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What are Three Areas a Single Parent Struggles With?

What are Three Areas a Single Parent Struggles With?

As a single parent struggles with bringing up your children are inevitable. You face the same difficulties that other families are confronted with, but you also face a unique set of circumstances because you are doing the job alone! You have no one to share the struggles with as a single, but you also have no one to fight with about how you parent your children. Here are three of the unique struggles that parents face when they are single, and a few ideas on how to deal with them.   1. Applying Discipline: Disciplining your children is one area you may find difficult, but it’s one of the single parent struggles that you cannot afford to lose! We have a lot of material on our website regarding disciplining children, and the simplest and most effective methods that can positively impact your kids for years. One of the biggest issue for single parents is consistency, because they are often the only ones applying the discipline. It is normal to get tired and to struggle with consistency, especially if your children are strong-willed, but the best advice I can give is to stand back, view the situation without emotion, and consistently apply the right discipline.   2. Lack of Money: Lack of money is a common struggle for many single parent families. Not only have you lost the income of your former partner, but you have to find a way to work or bring in income by yourself. Many single parents are holding down several job is to try and come up with the money necessary to allow the family to function properly. Many fall victim to “make money quick” schemes because they are so desperate for money. While there is no easy solution to this problem, you may need to ...

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Good Parenting Techniques You Can Use Immediately!

Good Parenting Techniques You Can Use Immediately!

While there are quite a few good parenting techniques that you can learn, the most necessary thing is to start employing them. You most likely are overwhelmed with many other philosophies and ideas, but being a good parent concerns actually utilizing those tips, and that’s what I want to consider now. Good parenting takes not simply techniques and theories, so here are three practical tasks you can start doing now that will improve the way you parent your son or daughter. 1.    Spend Time with Your Kids If you would like to show your kids that you love them, spending time is one of the most important things you can do. Good parenting is about making time for your kids, on their terms instead of yours. So forcing them to go with you shopping is not exactly quality time, but taking them to the movies or their favourite restaurant is. 2.    Know Where They Are While we’re not promoting stalking your child, as a responsible parent you have to know where your children are, what they are doing and who they are doing it with. Letting your children get out of control is not good parenting. 3.    Screen Their Screens! Keeping tab on your child screen activity is part of modern parenting. Whether it is the web, on-line games, take sting or DVDs, guarantee that what they are watching and playing fits with your view of life, and limit them to around a couple of hours a day of screen based recreation. Learning any strategy is useless unless you applied, and in the case of your children it is more significant than ever. We have many methods to give out on our website, and it’s all free, so drop by for good parenting techniques you may apply right now.

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Top 5 Mistakes that Stop Singles Having a Good Parent-Child Relationship

Top 5 Mistakes that Stop Singles Having a Good Parent-Child Relationship

It is critical that every family has a good parent-child relationship. But having this relationship involves way more than just being liked by your kids… You ought to be like a teabag, where hot water brings your true color out. Top 5 Mistakes that Stop Singles Having a Good Parent-Child Relationship Single mothers and dads produce some classic mistakes in this area, but if you are serious and avoid these pitfalls you could have a good parent-child relationship. 1. Hoping to Be Their Friend Relating well to your child and staying close to them is brilliant! Having them trust you and share their personal hopes and dreams can also be great. But you must remember, your children need you being a parent not as a friend. They need to admire and respect you, and while you may still relate to them it can’t be as just a friend. If your youngster decides to spend time with their friends as opposed to you, don’t be hurt. Forcing your friendship on them in the company of their friends won’t be productive. Instead, be trustworthy, close to them and love them, or to put it differently, be a mom or dad not just a friend. 2. Manipulating Them Singles as a rule especially single mothers are extremely prone to manipulating their children. In a healthy relationship, if you want to have them to do something you simply need to ask truthfully and openly, not manipulate them or use a guilt trip to have the children obey you. You may feel like the process works, but in the grand scheme of things it will return to haunt you and may ruin your entire relationship with your children. 3. Providing Far too much Freedom A good relationship between a parent and a child needs rules, ...

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What Does it Mean to be a Good Parent? 10 Practical Things to Do!

What Does it Mean to be a Good Parent? 10 Practical Things to Do!

I want to be a good parent, and I’m sure you do too, but what does this actually mean?  Looking around in a public place you will see many people who are examples of bad parenting, so like you I know what I don’t want it to look like, but I also recognize that there is far more to being a good parent than simply having a well behaved child in public.   Here’s 10 Practical things you can do to become a Good Parent… 1. Be Consistent. This is one of the biggest things in becoming a good parent… consistency!  Whatever you promise a child as a consequence of their actions, always follow through with it, whether a reward or something they do not like.  Don’t modify the consequences to avoid a fight or make your life more comfortable or easier. 2. Screaming is Losing!  That’s right, if you reach a point of screaming, yelling or any other display of anger, you lose… immediately!  You lose your child’s respect, and the ability to positively influence your child.  Discipline should be applied without emotion, and without fear, because the consequences must be established before the offence is committed.  Then if they do the act, the consequences happen, it’s that simple! 3. Listen to your Kids.  You can ask questions of your child and their behaviour, but you also need to listen.  They often don’t need a lecture from you, especially if they know they have messed up, but you are far better asking why they did something, then listening to their answer.  Turn the TV off, close the lap top, put the magazine down and give your child your undivided attention.  They will love the fact you prioritized them over whatever you were doing, and you will learn about them ...

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Top Ten Tips on How to Parent after a Breakup

Top Ten Tips on How to Parent after a Breakup

If you have children and have experienced a break up you may be wondering how to parent after the event.  Breakups are frequently messy and emotional affairs, and it is often hard to be there for your kids in their hour of need, especially when you are hurting so badly yourself. Learning how to parent through a breakup can soften the blow of the separation for your children, and surprisingly even for yourself. So here’s out Top Ten of coping with your breakup, and how to parent your children through it! 1. Speak to Each Child Individually While you can talk to all of them together, put some special time aside for each one individually. 2. Take into Account their Ages Obviously younger children will have less of an understanding of what a breakup is about compared to teenagers.  Try to convey the truth of what has happening in the simplest way possible, and ensure they understand. 3. Let the Know the Breakup is Not Their Fault Kids naturally blame themselves for a breakdown in the family and wonder what they could have done to prevent it.  Make sure they understand that this is between you and your ex, and they may have had a bearing on your decision, but certainly were not the root cause of the breakup. 4. Tell Them they are Unconditionally Loved by Both Parents Children need to know that they are unconditionally loved, no matter what they do, what they say and no matter what the state of the relationship between the parents.  Convey that your love for them and your partner’s love for them is not dependent on the parental relationship, and although clearly this will affect the way the parent child relationship works, it does not change how much they are loved. 5. ...

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Parenting Techniques for Single Moms

Parenting Techniques for Single Moms

Parenting techniques are an important part of effectively bringing up your child, and this is especially true for the single mom.  Without a partner to help share the load, make the decisions and set out the boundaries for the children, you need to make sure that you are employing the right parenting techniques in the right way, and that you stand firm on these even if your ex is undermining your parenting techniques. Here’s some practical parenting techniques you can start using today 1.    Love your Kids Unconditionally They need to know that their position in your affections is unchanged by any disobedience or disappointments.  They are the center of your world no matter what, and even as you discipline them they need to have total confidence that you love them unconditionally, no matter what! 2.    Ask for Help In poor countries a whole village bring up a child, and so it is with us.  Don’t be so proud as to not ask for help, especially from close family members or close friends.  If none will help you, make sure you enroll your kids in day care or after school to give you a much needed break. 3.    Don’t Play the Bribery Game Divorce usually leads to the ex trying to buy the love of your kids, and you must not be drawn into a bribery match.  You might feel like the bad cop, but giving the child more and more will undermine their moral development.  Talk to your ex and see if they will listen and help parent the children.  If they won’t, ask your support to help and make sure even if you are not the Santa Clause, that your child still feels loved. 4.    Set Firm Boundaries Kids need limits.  They need to know where these limits ...

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Being a Good Parent as a Single

Being a Good Parent as a Single

Being a good parent as a single mom or dad is possible and achievable.  It is certainly a harder ask than attempting this as part of a couple, but many would argue rightly that parenting alone is better than parenting with the wrong partner, or in an abusive relationship. Being a Good Parent takes more than Just Love! As a single parent I am sure that you love your children, but being a good parent is far more than that. In my charity running a home for young mothers, I have seen loads of girls who love their kids but cannot parent them properly, even to the point where the government removes them and places them in foster care.  Lots of love, sure, but no parenting skills! Beyond loving your children being a good parent means making some tough choices and providing real leadership in the home, even as a single parent.  It means learning our Top 10 parenting skills, and applying them consistently. And consistently is the key word! As a single parent you may not have someone with which to share the parenting load, discuss the situations you face or be there for you when you need help or a break.  If you lack a partner, I urge you to find someone else who can help, such as your mother, a close friend or an organization like the one I run, which is called Lily House. You may feel that you would like to stand on your own, but trust me, even if you don’t work full or part time, you still can benefit from support.  If you don’t have someone close to you, you can pay for things like child care or after school support. Sometimes being a good parent is about asking for help rather than ...

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