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The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

In our modern world parenting difficult teenagers has come to be increasingly hard , specially because they all have smartphones, Ipads, or computers, and this changes their communicating to friends and parents. Parenting teens has been tough because they’re experiencing so many changes themselves, and test the limits time and again.  Letting them go crazy by removing those limits could spell tragedy specially in the technology field, which is their prime means of communication. So here are some ideas on parenting your teenagers in the middle of modern technology… Use Technology to Communicate Teenagers communicate via technology today, so you should talk to them in the language they understand, be it texting, Facebook or chat.  Sitting chatting with them often causes them to clam up! Put Well Defined Limits and Consequences in Place It is important that you put well defined limits or boundaries in place for your teenager. This can include a curfew of 10 PM or a limit of two hours a day on the web. If they step beyond the boundaries, be sure you have well-defined consequences for this, spelled-out clearly from the start. That way, if they do step out of line you employ the consequences and there can be no arguments, screams or tears since they knew about it well in advance. Take Emotion Out of Discipline One of the leading mistakes parents make with difficult teenagers is that they react with emotion to everything that the teen says and does. When you have clearly defined limits and consequences, you can apply these without emotion and quickly take all the screening, cursing and threatening out of the equation. If you’re angry, step back, defuse the emotion within yourself, and apply the consequences. For more great ideas and techniques check out our website and make a ...

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Top Ten Tips of Parenting for Teenagers

Top Ten Tips of Parenting for Teenagers

When thinking about parenting for teenagers the thoughts can become terrifying.  Teenagers often seem so difficult to parent, and many of the things you might have learned with younger kids seem to lose their power when it comes to parenting.   So for all you worried moms and dads, here’s our Top Ten Tips about Parenting for Teenagers   Accept that Technology is Communication   Parenting for teenagers involves coming to grips with the way they communicate, and these days this means learning some technology.  Many teens won’t talk to you directly, or will do so very reluctantly, but what they will do is text or Facebook, so start texting them to have them share openly with you. Develop Trust both Ways Trust is a 2 way street, and if you expect your teen to be true to your trust, you need to make sure you are trustworthy also.   Don’t promise them things you do not deliver, like a weekend away or a new game. Let them follow their Interests Teenagers have interests, and while you cannot let these overtake learning for example, encourage them to explore what interests them and to express it.  Many will choose things like dancing, music, art or computer games, and set strict limits as to the time they can do things, but encourage them in it. Teach them about Money Managing money is something teenagers need to learn (as do we all!). Teach them early about the value of money, and delayed gratification, and teach them to save.  Also, teach them to budget, even on a small allowance.  These principles will never leave them if you do it correctly.  As well, let them experience the cost of the latest fashions and technologies, don’t just buy things for them.  They will soon learn that chasing ...

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Top 6 Trials of Shared Parenting

Top 6 Trials of Shared Parenting

Shared parenting is a difficult thing, and especially so if you and your ex have a rocky or volatile relationship. However, if you are determined to provide the right environment for your children, and if you are prepared to work together rather than against one another, shared parenting can be a great arrangement, both for yourself and the kids. However, it also introduces a number of issues that you need to work on collectively with your ex-partner, and failing to do this can lead to a complete breakdown in your relationship with your kids over time as you attempt to parent together. Here are the Top 6 Shared Parenting Hurdles you need to overcome in order to Become Successful Parents your children… 1. Never Speak Negatively About the Other Parent I know it’s tempting, but as much as you can you need to not speak ill of your ex to your child, no matter what they say or do, what arrangements they make or how much you or the children don’t think they care. Many separated couples use the children as a means to attack the other adult, and this not only alienates them, but it causes deep mistrust between you and your ex-partner. 2. Communicate about Rules No matter how much you dislike your ex, you need to be in communication with them and present a united parenting front to the children with regards family rules or laws. Frequently in cases of shared parenting, each household develops a different set of rules after the separation, but you will be well served to change communication with each other and make sure that your arrangements like what time they go to bed or what time they have to be home by are uniform, no matter which household they are staying at. ...

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The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The single parent families lifestyle is a unique and interesting one. This is especially true in the case of shared custody, because it is almost like the children are living a double life.  This lifestyle is not easy for adults, let alone for a child, so the pressures on single parent families and their lifestyle is often greater than on other families, even if both parties love the kids.   The Duality of the Single Parent Families Lifestyle   Living completely different lives with mom or dad during the week is taxing on everyone, especially on the child.  Yet it is a lifestyle that has to be faced if you truly love them, and you need to do the best for your child and the family.   Here are three areas you can work on to try and minimize the potentially destructive nature of the single parent families lifestyle…   Divide and Conquer Parents Kids are great at doing this, especially in a messy or nasty separation situations, and this can be a difficult lifestyle to deal with.  Kids are experts at dividing and conquering the parents even in regular families, playing mom off against dad to get what they want.  This is even more extreme for separated parents because the parents are already divided!   The solution: Start communicating with your ex and present a united front on the key issues.  If you can’t stand each other, it’s time to make a decision that you love the kids enough to put them first and at least start texting!  If you communicate you can make sure that the child is not playing one of you off against the other and avoid a tragedy people and unaware couples in your situation face daily!   Disciplining verses Fun Another unique single parent ...

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10 Solutions to Teenage Pregnancy You can Share with Your Daughter?

10 Solutions to Teenage Pregnancy You can Share with Your Daughter?

We all realize that teenage pregnancy is a common thing, but are there solutions to teenage pregnancy and motherhood that you can talk to your teenager daughter about? Falling pregnant as a teen is common, especially given the frequency of sexual encounters among teens today.  Statistics suggest that more than 3 out of 10 American girls will fall pregnant by the age of twenty, and given that over half of all teenagers have had sex, this is not a fact that will go away! It is something we need to deal with as parents, so here are a few ideas on solutions to teenage pregnancy that you can share with your daughter… 10 Solutions to Teenage Pregnancy 1. You are Precious. Tell your daughter that she is valuable, a precious gift from God to you, and that she does not have to throw her life away for anybody, or any experience.  She’s smart, pretty and deserves the best in life, so she must not lower herself or cheapen herself.  She is your princess, and she should act like royalty! 2. Take it Slow. In any relationship with a guy, take it slow.  Sex should be nowhere near the agenda in the early stages of a relationship, and certainly not on the first date or two.  You lose nothing going slowly, so take a breath and slow down! 3. Keep Talking. Make sure your daughter can always talk to you about sex and relationships without you going off the deep end!  Be there for her, even if you don’t agree with her decisions.  If you keep lines of communication open, she will turn to you when her heart is broken, but if you condemn her you drive her away! 4. Never be Pressured to do what you Know is Not Right. ...

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Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century: Top Ten Tips

Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century: Top Ten Tips

When thinking about parenting for teenagers the thoughts can become terrifying.  Teenagers often seem so difficult to parent, and many of the things you might have learned with younger kids seem to lose their power when it comes to parenting for teenagers.   So for all you worried moms and dads, here’s our Top Ten Tips about Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century.   1. Develop Trust both Ways Trust is a 2 way street, and if you expect your teen to be true to your trust, you need to make sure you are trustworthy also.   Don’t promise them things you do not deliver, like a weekend away or a new game. 2. Teach them about Money Managing money is something teenagers need to learn (as do we all!). Teach them early about the value of money, and delayed gratification, and teach them to save.  Also, teach them to budget, even on a small allowance.  These principles will never leave them if you do it correctly.  As well, let them experience the cost of the latest fashions and technologies, don’t just buy things for them.  They will soon learn that chasing fashion is expensive! 3. Accept that Communication is Technology Parenting for teenagers involves coming to grips with the way they communicate, and these days this means learning some technology.  Many teens won’t talk to you directly, or will do so very reluctantly, but what they will do is text or Facebook, so start texting them to have them share openly with you. 4. Monitor Technology Kids love technology, and hand held devices are so common now, as is social media.  However, you need to make sure that you keep an eye on their social media involvement.  Who are they meeting online, and for what purpose?  Might take a ...

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Parenting Teenagers for Positive Results as a Single Parent

Parenting Teenagers for Positive Results as a Single Parent

Parenting teenagers for positive results is not as difficult as it sounds.  Staying positive when talking to or even disciplining your teenager can maintain an atmosphere of positiveness in the relationship, and this is a sense the child will take with them as they grow and develop.   As a single parent, your job will probably be more difficult, especially if you are experiencing problems from your ex-partner.  If they set out to undermine your authority with your teen at every opportunity, then you have a far more difficult situation, but still not an impossible one.   Parenting Teenagers Takes Real Commitment   If you are parenting your teen, it is going to take some real commitment on your part.  It is not enough to start setting boundaries and consequences for breaking them, only to give up and quit after a few weeks, or days.  You need to set fair and sensible boundaries, and lay out the consequences of disobedience, making sure that your teenager understands the reasoning behind them.   Then you have to stick to them like glue!   This once again is hard if they visit the ex and have no boundaries in place.  You get to feel that you are the bad cop, and they are the good one.  That you get all the tantrums and anger, but the ex gets to have all the fun.  So how can you overcome this situation and still stay sane and maintain your integrity?   The answer is to stay positive, even when you are disciplining your teen.  The easiest way to do this is to sit down with the child and lay out what the boundaries are, what the consequences they will experience if they transgress.  Do it in consultation with them, so that they know your reasoning ...

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Funny Parenting Advice- The Top Ten Laws of Parenting

Funny Parenting Advice- The Top Ten Laws of Parenting

I have lots of funny parenting advice, mainly because I am a funny parent!  I mean, life is funny, and parenting, for all its difficulties, stresses and dramas, is also funny, especially if you step back and have a good hard look at it. So that has given rise to the Top Ten Laws of Funny Parenting Advice! They might be funny, but you will also find that they are true for most families! If you are a stressed out single parent, or overworked working mom, grab a cup of coffee, grab a few minutes alone and enjoy some sensible yet funny parenting advice.  Quick, while you can before the kids wake up! In any group of children, if one child is going to behave badly, it will always be yours.  If several are going to act out, yours will always be among them. If there is a choice between a cheap item and an expensive one, your kid will always want the more expensive one.  In fact, they will often want two of them. The longer you spend cooking for your child, the less they will like the result.  This is a scientific fact, and ranges from hours spent preparing healthy food (which they hate) to party pies, which are ready in minutes (which they love).  The ultimate expression of this is fast food, and we all know how much kids love that! The later you stay up, the earlier your child will get up the next morning.  This especially applies to single parents who have been out on a date the night before. The messier the food, the greater then chance it will finish up on the carpet.  Similarly, the more expensive the carpet, the greater then chance it will finish there, and the less likely you will ...

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Single Moms: Top Ten Keys to Success in the 21st Century

Single Moms: Top Ten Keys to Success in the 21st Century

Single moms can make it as parents and they can produce healthy, happy, successful children.  It is not easy being both parents for your kids, but it is possible especially when you apply these 10 Keys to success for single moms in the 21st Century.   1. Seek Support Most single moms find that they have to seek support, and there is no shame in doing this.  It might be close family, it might be close friends, or it might be a church group or single moms support group.  Whatever it takes, find and use some form of support. 2. Seek Help It is not enough to seek support, or a shoulder to cry on when things get tough, you need to also seek help.  Someone to mind the kids so you can have a break, or someone to drive them to football practice.  Don’t try and do everything by yourself. 3. Love your Kids I know you feel that you love them, but true love is not just a feeling it is a life-long commitment.  Tell them you love them, and also show them you love them by putting their needs before yours, and giving up what you want to serve them.  Yes, this includes dating and your choice of partner.  Let your kids be the hub of your existence, especially when they are young. Love is not just a feeling, it is what you say and how you treat them, so give your children unconditional love! 4. Avoid the Separation Tug-of-War Divorce is horrible, even if it is amicable.  Your children will feel that somehow they caused this.  There is an inevitable tug-of-war between the estranged couples, and only you can change this.  Don’t try and out buy your ex-partner’s attempts to win their love.  Believe me, the ...

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Top Ten Techniques for Parenting Difficult Teenagers

Top Ten Techniques for Parenting Difficult Teenagers

Parenting difficult teenagers is always a challenge.  Part of the challenge is that you are starting late in the piece, and it can be a bit like trying to score a winning touchdown or goal in the last 30 seconds of a game!   Although parenting any teenager will try your patience and sometimes break your heart, the rewards are worth it.  The joy of watching a child grow out of the teenage years into a successful and much loved adult is worth any price, so here are some tips for how you can parent your teenagers, even if they are being difficult!  1. Give them Clear Rules Paradoxically rules allow us freedom.  As a general rule, teens with no boundaries set will be more destructive and actually more miserable!  Set fair and reasonable rules, and make sure the teen knows the consequences of breaking those rules before they do anything.  You cannot come in after the fact and inflict a punishment, because teens have a strong sense of what’s fair and that simple isn’t!  2. Make Sensible Rules When parenting any teenager, you need to pick your battles, so make sure your rules are sensible and fair.  Don’t make a Federal case over whether they eat their sprouts!  Choose more important things like when they get home and how they speak to people. 3. Set Reasonable Consequences For teenagers you need to match the consequences with the action, and deprivation of things they want is better than corporal punishment.  You can’t ground them for coming home after midnight and for not making their bed one day.  Save the big penalties for the big disobedience, and I would always recommend punishing open defiance and rebellion more than forgetfulness or miscalculation. 4. Be Consistent In any type of discipline, consistency is ...

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