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The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

In our modern world parenting difficult teenagers has come to be increasingly hard , specially because they all have smartphones, Ipads, or computers, and this changes their communicating to friends and parents. Parenting teens has been tough because they’re experiencing so many changes themselves, and test the limits time and again.  Letting them go crazy by removing those limits could spell tragedy specially in the technology field, which is their prime means of communication. So here are some ideas on parenting your teenagers in the middle of modern technology… Use Technology to Communicate Teenagers communicate via technology today, so you should talk to them in the language they understand, be it texting, Facebook or chat.  Sitting chatting with them often causes them to clam up! Put Well Defined Limits and Consequences in Place It is important that you put well defined limits or boundaries in place for your teenager. This can include a curfew of 10 PM or a limit of two hours a day on the web. If they step beyond the boundaries, be sure you have well-defined consequences for this, spelled-out clearly from the start. That way, if they do step out of line you employ the consequences and there can be no arguments, screams or tears since they knew about it well in advance. Take Emotion Out of Discipline One of the leading mistakes parents make with difficult teenagers is that they react with emotion to everything that the teen says and does. When you have clearly defined limits and consequences, you can apply these without emotion and quickly take all the screening, cursing and threatening out of the equation. If you’re angry, step back, defuse the emotion within yourself, and apply the consequences. For more great ideas and techniques check out our website and make a ...

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Disciplining Teenagers as a Single without Driving Them Away: Top Ten!

Disciplining Teenagers as a Single without Driving Them Away: Top Ten!

Disciplining teenagers can be a nightmare, and can drive a huge wedge between the parents and kids. This is especially true for single parents, who often find themselves in a bidding war with their ex, each side spending more and disciplining less in an attempt to win the teenager’s affections. Why Disciplining Teenagers is Important Some people will tell you that once your child hits their teens you have really lost the opportunity to effectively discipline them.  This is simply not true, but you do have to modify the way in which you set about disciplining them.  The methods that work for a 5 year old or even a 10 year old tend not to work as well once your child hits their teens! So here’s our Top Ten Tips on how you can discipline teenagers effectively… 1. Make Your Rules Simple Disciplining teenagers needs to be kept simple, and your rules must make sense to them.  Choose important rules and learn to let some of the little things slide by without comment from you. 2. Make your Rules Clear Teens tend to have an overdeveloped sense of what is fair, and what is not.  If you keep your rules clear, and tell them before they transgress, then it will be a lot smoother sailing. If your ex constantly undermines them at their house, make sure they teen understands that your home is different. 3. Make the Consequences Proportional Teens need to feel that the consequences are not only fair, but also are in proportion to the disobedience.  I tend to be harder on defiance and rebellion than if they forget and stay out too late, or leave their room untidy.  Sometimes even a troublesome ex can understand and start to apply sensible, proportional rules, and then you have a ...

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