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Good Parenting Techniques You Can Use Immediately!

Good Parenting Techniques You Can Use Immediately!

While there are quite a few good parenting techniques that you can learn, the most necessary thing is to start employing them. You most likely are overwhelmed with many other philosophies and ideas, but being a good parent concerns actually utilizing those tips, and that’s what I want to consider now. Good parenting takes not simply techniques and theories, so here are three practical tasks you can start doing now that will improve the way you parent your son or daughter. 1.    Spend Time with Your Kids If you would like to show your kids that you love them, spending time is one of the most important things you can do. Good parenting is about making time for your kids, on their terms instead of yours. So forcing them to go with you shopping is not exactly quality time, but taking them to the movies or their favourite restaurant is. 2.    Know Where They Are While we’re not promoting stalking your child, as a responsible parent you have to know where your children are, what they are doing and who they are doing it with. Letting your children get out of control is not good parenting. 3.    Screen Their Screens! Keeping tab on your child screen activity is part of modern parenting. Whether it is the web, on-line games, take sting or DVDs, guarantee that what they are watching and playing fits with your view of life, and limit them to around a couple of hours a day of screen based recreation. Learning any strategy is useless unless you applied, and in the case of your children it is more significant than ever. We have many methods to give out on our website, and it’s all free, so drop by for good parenting techniques you may apply right now.

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The Trials of Single Parent Fathers

The Trials of Single Parent Fathers

Single parent fathers are under a different type of pressure to the average father. Instead of being able to share the load of parenting, single parent fathers often have to stand alone, and frequently they are in conflict with the estranged mother of the children. Most fathers have to work to earn income and support their families. If a father’s single, coordinating work time and time with the children is often a more difficult task than for a married man, because when they have the kids there is often no one to help them share responsibilities. Yet many single dads find that they get to spend better quality time with their children, perhaps because they have limited time available and they have decided to make the most of it. Many dads take real delight in prioritizing their family time, and if they are wise they will realize that their time with their children has to take precedence over work and other social activities. There are several difficulties faced by fathers who are Ron their own. In addition to 2 limited opportunities and time with their children, they often have a rocky or difficult relationship with the mother of the kids, and all that this entails for parenting. As the kids grow older, they learn to exploit the differences in conflict that occurs between the estranged parents, playing mom off against dad to get their own way. Add to this the fact that a father parenting on their own also has to balance in a work schedule and some sort of a social life, and you really can begin to understand the unique difficulties faced by single parent fathers. This situation is made even more difficult if the guy has decided to start dating again, because many times their children will ...

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The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The single parent families lifestyle is a unique and interesting one. This is especially true in the case of shared custody, because it is almost like the children are living a double life.  This lifestyle is not easy for adults, let alone for a child, so the pressures on single parent families and their lifestyle is often greater than on other families, even if both parties love the kids.   The Duality of the Single Parent Families Lifestyle   Living completely different lives with mom or dad during the week is taxing on everyone, especially on the child.  Yet it is a lifestyle that has to be faced if you truly love them, and you need to do the best for your child and the family.   Here are three areas you can work on to try and minimize the potentially destructive nature of the single parent families lifestyle…   Divide and Conquer Parents Kids are great at doing this, especially in a messy or nasty separation situations, and this can be a difficult lifestyle to deal with.  Kids are experts at dividing and conquering the parents even in regular families, playing mom off against dad to get what they want.  This is even more extreme for separated parents because the parents are already divided!   The solution: Start communicating with your ex and present a united front on the key issues.  If you can’t stand each other, it’s time to make a decision that you love the kids enough to put them first and at least start texting!  If you communicate you can make sure that the child is not playing one of you off against the other and avoid a tragedy people and unaware couples in your situation face daily!   Disciplining verses Fun Another unique single parent ...

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Children and Divorce: A Top Ten Survival Guide

Children and Divorce: A Top Ten Survival Guide

Children and Divorce are a potent mix.  The pain that you go through during your divorce is reflected and sometimes amplified for your children.  Most often they have no idea of exactly what has gone wrong in the relationship, and frequently they blame themselves for the resulting divorce.   So how can you love your children and divorce their mom or dad at the same time?  The fact is, relationships break down from time to time and children suffer as much as adults, especially if they have a good relationship with the ex.   All through the divorce you will experience pain, and so will the children, but our Top Ten survival guide can help both you and the kids survive this difficult time…   Children and Divorce: Our Top Ten Survival Guide… 1. Assure them the Divorce is Not Their Fault! They are your children and divorce is not their fault.  Explain that it is a decision that mom and dad have made, and although it affects them, it is not their fault, and there is nothing they can do directly to repair the relationship.  What’s done is done, and you all have to do the best you can dealing with the fallout! 2. Maintain Routine Routine is a friend to your children, so as much as you can keep them in a familiar routine.  There will be times you have to vary it, especially when trying to fit visitation in, but make sure they are able to continue in what they see as important in their lives, even after school things like football or dance classes. 3. Careful What you Say As tempting as it is to speak badly of your ex, you need to stop doing this.  Always speak kindly of them, because throwing mud is ground ...

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Top 20 Funny and Profound Quotes on Parenting

Top 20 Funny and Profound Quotes on Parenting

While there are many quotes on parenting across the internet, some of them I have found to be either distasteful or inappropriate, and that’s why for our website we have included our own quotes in parenting.   Some are funny, some are profound, but all of them have something that resonates with parents and the sometimes overwhelming task of bringing up children.   So here are our favorite Top 20 quotes on parenting   Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them. – P.J. O’Rourke Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands. – Anne Frank Having children is like living in a frat house – nobody sleeps, everything’s broken, and there’s a lot of throwing up. – Ray Romano We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future. – President Franklin D. Roosevelt We spend the first 12 months of our children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next 12 months teaching them to sit down and shut up. – Phyllis Diller We never know the love of the parent till we become parents ourselves. – Henry Ward Beecher There really are places in the heart you don’t even know exist until you love a child. – Anne Lamott, Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them. – Bill Ayers You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance. – Franklin P. Adams The best way to keep children at home ...

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Top Ten Bad Parenting Habits to Avoid (Part 3)

Top Ten Bad Parenting Habits to Avoid (Part 3)

Here is the conclusion of your series on Bad Parenting It has been a fun, tongue in cheek look at bad parenting, but you can learn a lot from looking at how NOT to parent your child.  If you missed the previous installments, click here to Start at the first article. 8. The Screaming Match Bad parenting most often results in a screaming match. For both parent and child, frustration and stress on the relationship are often expressed by emotions, and the most common emotion is yelling. Screaming at your child, standing over them or poking your finger at them is rude, demeaning and closes communication with them. It lowers their respect for you and even if you scream but they fall silent, damage is being done which can last a lifetime. Emotions are part of living in a family, and if you’ve had a particularly stressful day it’s not uncommon to feel like you want to scream. However, if you lose your temper you lose the plot, so take a breath, count to 10 and walk away until you are in control of your emotions. Once you are calm enough, sit with your child and discuss the issue, focusing on them not on the problem. Allow them to express their emotions, but take a break if they are getting worked up. If you can calmly express the reasons for your decision without it becoming a screaming match then you have achieved a major victory. Remember, the words you say cannot be retrieved, so take time aside to think and speak rationally and carefully to your child. 9. Criticizing Your Child Experts tell us that criticism and verbal abuse can, like physical abuse, have a slow and negative affect on the development of children. In older kids it can cause ...

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Parenting for Dummies: A Not-So-Dumb Top Ten

Parenting for Dummies: A Not-So-Dumb Top Ten

Parenting for dummies is probably a bit condescending as a title, but the purpose of this article is to strip away the mystique of being a parent.  In its purest form, parenting should be pretty straight forward, but the truth is that, in the heat of the battle with our kids, it becomes almost overwhelming! Hence the term, “for dummies”.  I want to strip away the smoke and mirrors and get back to the basics of how you can be a great parent, in a way that anyone, including a first time novice, should be able to apply. So here is our not-so-dumb Top Ten of Parenting for Dummies (and also smart people like you!) 1. Set Limits Parenting starts with setting sensible limits, and attaching sensible consequences to them.  Boundaries should be put in place and this will be dependent on the age of the children.  Pick your battles, and don’t put rules in place for things that are trivial, save it for the important ones.  So have a rule in place for staying out beyond curfew, but avoid making a Federal Case of the child not brushing their teeth. 2. Set Consequences Consequences need to make sense and be proportional.  For example a perfect consequence for staying out late would be grounding the child. Don’t set a consequence that just frustrates the child, or that is perceived as unfair or inappropriate, such as spanking a child for hitting another child.  Do not threaten consequences you will not or cannot keep to, so avoid saying things like, “If you do that again I will kill you!” 3. Follow Through If you set a consequence, follow through every single time, or you will consider yourself a real dummy in the long run!  Even if you don’t want to, even if ...

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Top Ten Parenting Solutions for Working Moms and Dads

Top Ten Parenting Solutions for Working Moms and Dads

If you are single and working, you need to think about parenting solutions, especially if you are a full time worker.  Modern society can be very insular, but what is still true in the 21st Century is that a child is raised by a village, not an individual, and this is especially true for the single mom or dad who is working.   Our Top Ten Parenting Solutions can give you Insight and Ideas!   Here is our Top Ten of Parenting Solutions for working moms and dads, and hopefully this will help you to take control of the parenting situation.  This also colors how you see your work environment, and while all of these are not applicable to all workplaces, you may have to change your job situation for the benefit of your family.   1. Seek Help from Your Family or Friends A single parent must not be an island, so look at your immediate family and friends and see if there is anyone you can trust who can share the load of caring for the children. Can you coordinate times with your mom, or with a close friend who knows and loves your children? 2. Share the Load Pooling resources is a common and one of the most very effective parenting solutions.  If you know other single parents who are working, then you can pool your resources and coordinate times and jobs so that sometimes you mind their kids, and other times they mind yours.  It is a mutual exchange of child minding services, but again you need to be able to trust them. 3. Try to Obtain Flexible Hours at Work Many jobs can be made flexible, and if you are a good worker your employers will be inclined to do all they can to help ...

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Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century: Top Ten Tips

Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century: Top Ten Tips

When thinking about parenting for teenagers the thoughts can become terrifying.  Teenagers often seem so difficult to parent, and many of the things you might have learned with younger kids seem to lose their power when it comes to parenting for teenagers.   So for all you worried moms and dads, here’s our Top Ten Tips about Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century.   1. Develop Trust both Ways Trust is a 2 way street, and if you expect your teen to be true to your trust, you need to make sure you are trustworthy also.   Don’t promise them things you do not deliver, like a weekend away or a new game. 2. Teach them about Money Managing money is something teenagers need to learn (as do we all!). Teach them early about the value of money, and delayed gratification, and teach them to save.  Also, teach them to budget, even on a small allowance.  These principles will never leave them if you do it correctly.  As well, let them experience the cost of the latest fashions and technologies, don’t just buy things for them.  They will soon learn that chasing fashion is expensive! 3. Accept that Communication is Technology Parenting for teenagers involves coming to grips with the way they communicate, and these days this means learning some technology.  Many teens won’t talk to you directly, or will do so very reluctantly, but what they will do is text or Facebook, so start texting them to have them share openly with you. 4. Monitor Technology Kids love technology, and hand held devices are so common now, as is social media.  However, you need to make sure that you keep an eye on their social media involvement.  Who are they meeting online, and for what purpose?  Might take a ...

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Single Parenting Facts

Single Parenting Facts

These single parenting facts give some insight into how single parents live, and how they cope with the complex and often overwhelming task of parenting as a single mom or dad. Although raw facts do not convey any of the struggle or emotion of being a single parent, they can give us an insight into some of the stereotypical caricatures that have been created concerning especially single moms.  This information provides a timely insight into single parenting and how both moms and dads cope with being single and raising children. The US Census Bureau provided these single parenting facts, and they are current as of November 2009. There are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States, and they are responsible for raising around 28.1 million children, which represents 26% of all children in the United States under the age of 21 years old. Around 84% of custodial single parents are mothers and 16% are fathers.  Of the mothers, 45% are currently divorced or separated, while 34.2% have never married at all.  Of the men, 57.8% are divorced or separated and 34.2% have never married. Surprisingly 79.5% of single moms who have their children are employed, 49.8% of them full time.  For single dads who have their children, 90% are gainfully employed. Another interesting single parenting fact is that only 27% of single mothers and 12.9% or single dads live in poverty. Although many picture single moms as young, these single parenting facts reveal that 39.1% are in fact over the age of 40. Typically a single mom is raising one child, with 54% of custodial moms raising one child from the separated parent, while 46% have two or more children with them full time. Being a single parent is never easy, as these single parenting fact bear witness, ...

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