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The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

In our modern world parenting difficult teenagers has come to be increasingly hard , specially because they all have smartphones, Ipads, or computers, and this changes their communicating to friends and parents. Parenting teens has been tough because they’re experiencing so many changes themselves, and test the limits time and again.  Letting them go crazy by removing those limits could spell tragedy specially in the technology field, which is their prime means of communication. So here are some ideas on parenting your teenagers in the middle of modern technology… Use Technology to Communicate Teenagers communicate via technology today, so you should talk to them in the language they understand, be it texting, Facebook or chat.  Sitting chatting with them often causes them to clam up! Put Well Defined Limits and Consequences in Place It is important that you put well defined limits or boundaries in place for your teenager. This can include a curfew of 10 PM or a limit of two hours a day on the web. If they step beyond the boundaries, be sure you have well-defined consequences for this, spelled-out clearly from the start. That way, if they do step out of line you employ the consequences and there can be no arguments, screams or tears since they knew about it well in advance. Take Emotion Out of Discipline One of the leading mistakes parents make with difficult teenagers is that they react with emotion to everything that the teen says and does. When you have clearly defined limits and consequences, you can apply these without emotion and quickly take all the screening, cursing and threatening out of the equation. If you’re angry, step back, defuse the emotion within yourself, and apply the consequences. For more great ideas and techniques check out our website and make a ...

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Top Ten Techniques for Parenting Difficult Teenagers

Top Ten Techniques for Parenting Difficult Teenagers

Parenting difficult teenagers is always a challenge.  Part of the challenge is that you are starting late in the piece, and it can be a bit like trying to score a winning touchdown or goal in the last 30 seconds of a game!   Although parenting any teenager will try your patience and sometimes break your heart, the rewards are worth it.  The joy of watching a child grow out of the teenage years into a successful and much loved adult is worth any price, so here are some tips for how you can parent your teenagers, even if they are being difficult!  1. Give them Clear Rules Paradoxically rules allow us freedom.  As a general rule, teens with no boundaries set will be more destructive and actually more miserable!  Set fair and reasonable rules, and make sure the teen knows the consequences of breaking those rules before they do anything.  You cannot come in after the fact and inflict a punishment, because teens have a strong sense of what’s fair and that simple isn’t!  2. Make Sensible Rules When parenting any teenager, you need to pick your battles, so make sure your rules are sensible and fair.  Don’t make a Federal case over whether they eat their sprouts!  Choose more important things like when they get home and how they speak to people. 3. Set Reasonable Consequences For teenagers you need to match the consequences with the action, and deprivation of things they want is better than corporal punishment.  You can’t ground them for coming home after midnight and for not making their bed one day.  Save the big penalties for the big disobedience, and I would always recommend punishing open defiance and rebellion more than forgetfulness or miscalculation. 4. Be Consistent In any type of discipline, consistency is ...

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