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Top Ten Ways of Facing Parenting Issues with Children

Top Ten Ways of Facing Parenting Issues with Children

If you are facing parenting issues with children you probably need to stop, take a good look at yourself and how you manage the children, and see if you are making wise decisions.   Hindsight is always 20/20 vision and this is especially true for parenting issues with children.  It is easier to look back on a situation with your kids and know exactly what you should have said and should not have said, but in the heat of the moment parenting becomes a much more difficult issue!   If you are facing parenting issues with your children, think about these ideas…   1. Talk to Them Make sure you keep lines of communication open.  Talking to your kids can make all the difference, especially when explaining the reasons for disciplining them.   2. Be Strong When you make a parenting decision, don’t be easily swayed by complaints from your child.  If you make a decision, consult them but in the long run your decision should stand.   3. Big Them Up Make sure you speak positive words to your children, especially in front of others.  Never complain about them to others in their presence because it is embarrassing and will build resentment to your parenting.   4. Be Fair In all parenting issues with children you need to be perceived as fair, not unreasonable or petty.   5. Make Consequences Just Make sure that the consequences for disobedience are just and in proportion to the offence.  Consequences should also alight with the offence, so staying out after curfew for example is best deal with by grounding for a week rather than the removal of another privilege.   6. Be Consistent The biggest issue parenting children is in the area of consistency.  You need to follow through every single time, ...

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Top Ten Positive Parenting Skills for the Single Parent

Top Ten Positive Parenting Skills for the Single Parent

The power of positive parenting skills is the power of being able to influence the life of your child for good, and for ever.  It believes that, despite the challenges of parenting, the journey can be fun and fulfilling, and that you can discipline your children in loving and positive ways. It is the ability as a single parent to fulfill both mom and dad roles, and to influence your children to help them become successful, happy and well-adjusted adults one day.   The Difficulty of Positive Parenting Skills for the Single Parent   As a single parent, one of the great difficulties you face in applying positive parenting skills is the lack of consistency, especially if the children visit with your ex.  You have little control over what they teach, how they teach them or the standards they apply to them.   You also have little or no control over the way they speak to the children.  If your ex is miserable or depressed, they may be tearing the kids down every other weekend, while you are madly trying to be positive and speak uplifting words to them.   This makes the task of parenting more difficult but not impossible.  But if this is the case with your ex-partner, you must remain positive and loving for your children as they grow and develop.  Here are some suggestions on how you can develop your own positive parenting skills to harness the power for your single parent family.  1. Get Support Don’t try to do everything on your own!  Gather close family or friends, or reach out to a support group.  If you cannot find these, pay for childcare or after school care, but get some sort of support to help share the time demands and emotional load. 1. Talk to ...

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Parenting Skills 101 for Dummies

Parenting Skills 101 for Dummies

Parenting skills 101 refers to the basics of being parents, and you might think that most people know the basics.  However, in the heat of the moment even the basic knowledge we have about good parenting can go out the window, so whether you are a new or experienced parent, going over the basics is always going to be a good idea! With this in mind, here’s a Top Ten that you will do well to go over once again. The Top 10 Parenting Skills 101   1.    Provide Unconditional Love Loving your children is easy when they are good and a bit harder when they are disobedient, stubborn or badly behaved.  Yet if the kids know your affection is independent of their failings they will feel secure and strangely, their behavior will often improve. 2.    Be a Leader Children don’t need you to be a friend or a buddy, and they certainly don’t need to parent you!  What they need from you, especially early in life, is for you to lead, direct and guide them, so step up to the mark and be a true, decisive yet loving leader for your children. 3.    Provide Structure You might be a free spirit, and you might want that for your children, but kids need and even crave structure.  They need to know what is right and what is wrong, so set this out clearly for them and let them learn from their mistakes.  Our society functions on rules, and they need to learn them to be a part of our society. In the same way that you need road rules to drive effectively, so you need life rules to live effectively. Within that structure their freedom will blossom. 4.    Teach Them Consequences Children need to know that whatever they do, good ...

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