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How Single Parent Families Can Make It

How Single Parent Families Can Make It

In our contemporary society you can find more single parent families than before, and while it may be difficult, I feel they can do a good job of bringing up their kids. There are many important factors which allow single parent families to have success, so if you are parenting as a single mom or dad, here are a couple ideas to help you and your loved ones. Get Support We’re not an island, so if you would like your family to really make it make sure that you get support from people surrounding you. It’s generally way too much to ask that your ex is going to be supportive, but you can acquire support from your parents, close friends or relatives who have an active involvement in your family, and love your kids. Get Training A lot of people are unaware of the unique pressures you face as a sole parent, including your ex-partner undermining your parenting skills. Getting some training and the right advice is very important for single parents. Our website has loads of practical parenting ideas and techniques that you can employ with the family immediately.   Get Serious While many single mothers and dads experience lots of drama in their families, the successful ones get seriously interested in parenting, and learn the best techniques. We want to help you to establish the right boundaries, consequences for our actions and anything else you need, so check out the free information that we offer. With the proper help, advice, ideas and techniques, single parent families can not only make it, but can become successful, powerful and awesome families!

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The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The single parent families lifestyle may be a unique and fascinating one. In shared child custody this runs specifically true, and the children may appear as if they are living a double life.  This lifestyle can be difficult for adults, never mind for a child, so the strains on single parent families and their lifestyle is most often higher than on other families, even though all sides love the kids. The Duality of the Single Parent Families Lifestyle Children seem to be living wholly different lives with each of the parents.  But somehow you are required to face and beat this manner of life for your children! Here I will discuss three areas you possibly can work on to try and minimize the potentially destructive nature of the single parent families lifestyle… Divide and Conquer The kids specialty, and especially in messy or nasty divorces.  Youngsters are experts at dividing and conquering the mother and father even in regular families, playing mom off against dad to get what they need.  This is even more extreme for separated parents because of the fact that the parents are already divided! The solution: You and your ex will need to start communicating on the critical issues.  If you can’t stand each other, it’s time to determine that you love the kids enough to put them first and at least start texting!  If you communicate you can make sure that the kid is not playing one of you off against the other and prevent a tragedy people and unaware couples in your situation face daily! Disciplining verses Fun It is possible that one parent might be fun but the other has got to discipline?  This could happen even in marriage or if couples stay together, so how much more for you.  But this method ...

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Christmas and the Single Parent

Christmas and the Single Parent

Christmas can be a joy is time for a single parent, but it can also be a time of loneliness and regret. If you are coming off a recent breakup, you can look back at your year with regret and honest relationship. Christmas is traditionally a time for family, and when your family has been torn apart it can be a painful experience. However it doesn’t have to be, because there are many things even as a single parent that you can draw from Christmas that will bring joy, peace and great satisfaction.   How to Enjoy Your Christmas as a Single Parent If you have young children, Christmas is always a magical time. As a single parent, you have the opportunity to share this magical time on a close, one on one relationship with your child or children. This can begin when you start decorating the tree several weeks before Christmas, and continues right up to Christmas Day, when you’re young children can get up early and begin opening presents. The night before Christmas can be made very special, and if you do not have a partner in your relationship you can experience the joys of “being Santa Claus”. In my family, the children leave milk and cookies out for Santa, and when we get up the next morning they will find the cookies gone and the milk drunk. Kids love presents, and the prospect of Christmas will always begin early if they get the chance. Sleep in any other day but Christmas is a day for getting up early and watching the children open their presents. If you are lucky enough to have family present, such as your parents or aunts or uncles, make sure everyone is up for the opening of the presents. Next comes the Christmas ...

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Coping with Children and Divorce

Coping with Children and Divorce

In a perfect world children and divorce would never be linked together. But we do not live in a perfect world, and with so many marriage and family breakdowns and single parent families out there, very often children and divorce are wrapped up together, to the detriment of both the parent and the child. We would like to think that every marriage was made in heaven and never needs help, but the fact is people change, relationships change and unfortunately divorce is the by-product of this. If you have experienced this you will know the emotional trauma and drama that separation can bring, but this can be magnified when it comes to kids. Bringing the Best Out of Parents, Children and Divorce! It is possible to bring the best out of both the parent and the child through a marriage separation, but it often takes both parents working extra hard to make this happen. The most important thing is that, despite how nasty or difficult the separation may be, that both parties continue to communicate with each other effectively and civilly, especially with regards anything that concerns the kids. Communication is the key! You need to communicate with your ex-about important matters like how to discipline your children, when to discipline them and the rules of the family. It is no good if they are punished for something in one family while in the other it is completely overlooked all laughed off. It is also important with how you relate to your children. You need to sit and talk to them about the family situation and the divorce, alerting them to what to expect, what visitation rights will be involved and continually reiterating that it is not their fault. The kids need to know that the breakdown in the relationship ...

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Being Single and Parenting Well

Being Single and Parenting Well

Being single and parenting well is attainable for most single parents, but it often takes more time and effort than for two parent families.  Yet being single and parenting presents some amazing and unique opportunities for single parents that, if managed correctly, can lead to incredible, productive, healthy and successful children and families.   Single and Parenting Can Go Together!   Many people automatically issue that being single and also a parent does not go together, but this is simply untrue. Granted, many single parents struggle to bring their children up effectively, and this is made worse if they are the sole breadwinner as well! Remember, bringing up kids was designed to be done by two parents, so that the load and the pressures could be shared, so doing it as a single is definitely more difficult.   That being said, you are better off being single and facing the stress of being a parent without help than trying to do it with a non-supportive or even disruptive partner in your life. If your partner is constantly undermining the decisions you are making or your attempts to discipline, then doing things alone and a single parent could be a better option for you and for your child.   However even single parents face the possibility of interference from a disruptive or non-supportive partner, even if they are divorced or separated. Many times parental decisions or moral rules are made, only to be underdone when the child visits the other parent! This is one of the aspects that make raising children as a single more difficult, so if this is the type of situation you find yourself then make sure that you are communicating well with your estranged partner, especially on matters concerning discipline and the social or moral standards you ...

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The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The single parent families lifestyle is a unique and interesting one. This is especially true in the case of shared custody, because it is almost like the children are living a double life.  This lifestyle is not easy for adults, let alone for a child, so the pressures on single parent families and their lifestyle is often greater than on other families, even if both parties love the kids.   The Duality of the Single Parent Families Lifestyle   Living completely different lives with mom or dad during the week is taxing on everyone, especially on the child.  Yet it is a lifestyle that has to be faced if you truly love them, and you need to do the best for your child and the family.   Here are three areas you can work on to try and minimize the potentially destructive nature of the single parent families lifestyle…   Divide and Conquer Parents Kids are great at doing this, especially in a messy or nasty separation situations, and this can be a difficult lifestyle to deal with.  Kids are experts at dividing and conquering the parents even in regular families, playing mom off against dad to get what they want.  This is even more extreme for separated parents because the parents are already divided!   The solution: Start communicating with your ex and present a united front on the key issues.  If you can’t stand each other, it’s time to make a decision that you love the kids enough to put them first and at least start texting!  If you communicate you can make sure that the child is not playing one of you off against the other and avoid a tragedy people and unaware couples in your situation face daily!   Disciplining verses Fun Another unique single parent ...

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How to Help Single Parent Families Headed by Women Succeed!

How to Help Single Parent Families Headed by Women Succeed!

There seems to be some opinion in society that single parent families headed by women are doomed to failure, but that is not only untrue it is offensive to a huge number of amazing moms who are becoming incredible, productive and successful parents on their own!   Don’t Stereotype Single Parent Families Headed by Women!   To head up a family alone is a challenge, particularly so if you are a woman who is holding down a job to provide for the family.  Many of these incredible new parents are very young, and statistics show that 8 out of 10 of the fathers do not stay in a relationship with the mom, so many of these young girls are doing it alone with their child.   Yet most of these girls do not fit the stereotype.  They are not irresponsible, they do love their child and do not leave their babies at home to go out and party.  Their kids are not totally out of control!  For the majority of these parents, they take up the challenge to become great moms and rise to the occasion, putting their lives and dreams on hold.  In fact, fewer than 10% of them will ever graduate college because they put parenting first!   Another challenge faced by single parent families headed by women is that they must make all the major decisions alone.  They have to be both father and mother to their children, and they have to cope alone with difficult tasks like disciplining and encouraging their kids.  Do they get it right all the time?  Of course not, but many couples make mistakes too.  The tragedy is that, without a marriage partner, society tends to be harsher on these people in nearly every country and society, even though we often lack ...

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Struggles with Single Parent Families and Shared Custody

Struggles with Single Parent Families and Shared Custody

There are many struggles with single parent families which are unique, especially if the estranged mom or dad is still in the picture! Having two parents in a family gives them the opportunity to share the load and the burden together, and when things get too much you have the opportunity to sit and talk with someone who understands your situation. For single moms or dads this is not the case. Key Struggles with Single Parent Families and Shared Custody   One of the key problems has to do with shared custody, because sometimes your ex-partner is not going to share the same values and concerns that you have. In many cases, the kids are used as a pawn in an elaborate family game where parents try to use each child to attack their former partner. This is common behavior but it is very unfair on the kids and also on the adults. If you are parenting your family and want to do a great job despite the separation, here are some key struggles with single parent families and shared custody that you need to consider… Different values It is common in shared custody that each of the parents have different values when it comes to bringing up the family. One might be stronger on discipline while the other is very lax, or one might prefer junk food where the other insists on eating healthy.  Financial differences can also be a source of friction. These differences can take a happy family and cause them to turn on each other, and the pressure is greater if you are estranged.  The best advice is to sit with your ex-partner, decide to help one another in the family and talk each family problem through, so that even if you don’t get on well ...

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Facing the Key Issues with Single Parent Families

Facing the Key Issues with Single Parent Families

If you are single and have kids you will realize that there are issues with single parent families.  All families have issues, but in single parent families these issues can be magnified or minified, depending on the parent involved and a number of other factors.   Facing the facts is an important aspect of improving your situation as a single parent. Many families suggest that in a lot of cases being involved in a single parent family is preferable to a dual parent situation, especially if the previous arrangement was abusive.   All families have thing they need to work through, and the issues with single parent families are in many ways no different to two parent families.  Of course, because you are a single parent, there are some pressures that your family will face which are unique to your situation, and here are a few of those you must think about…   Single Parent family Issues to Consider   Rules Families need rules, and single parent families will experience issues with regards the application of these rules.  Having only one parent at the helm means that rules are made with less people involved, and you need to make rule in consultation with your kids.  Set up rules and attach a consequence to them that is fair and reasonable in your children’s eyes.   Discipline One of the real issues of single parent families is that it is harder to apply consistent discipline because you cannot share the load.  This means you need to be on your game every day, and sometimes it just gets hard to be that consistent.  Add to this the very real issue that your ex may be undermining your efforts at discipline and you may have a touchy, difficult and painful situation on your hands. ...

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How do Single Parent Families Affect Children?

How do Single Parent Families Affect Children?

It is well recognized that single parent families affect children, but it can work in both a positive and a negative way.  On the TV Talk Shows, you will see all of the negative effects, but there are some positives that can make single parent families a positive experience for a child.   One positive way in which single parent families affect children is in the area of time.  Without the added distraction of a partner, many single parents choose to devote themselves to their children rather than spending time with their partner.   For children, time is an important way of saying, “I love you!”  If you never spend any quality time with your children, they begin to feel that you are ignoring them and are more interested in your own life than in theirs.  Many single moms I know love having girl’s nights with their kids, enjoying movies and popcorn or pamper nights in a way they simply would not pursue if the dad was around.   One Hidden Positive Affect on Children of Single Parent Families   One of the hidden positives ways that Single Parent Families Affect Children is if the other partner is abusive.  Many women feel they need to stay with an abusive husband for the kids, to keep the family together, but most often the children are much better serving in a single parent family, away from the abuse of the ex-partner.   One Hidden Negative Affect on Children of Single Parent Families   Families were designed to have two parents, and both men and women can bring positives to the equation.  One of the hidden negative ways that Single Parent Families affect children is in the lack of a positive role model.  Many single moms find that their children have real difficulty relating ...

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