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What are Three Areas a Single Parent Struggles With?

What are Three Areas a Single Parent Struggles With?

As a single parent struggles with bringing up your children are inevitable. You face the same difficulties that other families are confronted with, but you also face a unique set of circumstances because you are doing the job alone! You have no one to share the struggles with as a single, but you also have no one to fight with about how you parent your children. Here are three of the unique struggles that parents face when they are single, and a few ideas on how to deal with them.   1. Applying Discipline: Disciplining your children is one area you may find difficult, but it’s one of the single parent struggles that you cannot afford to lose! We have a lot of material on our website regarding disciplining children, and the simplest and most effective methods that can positively impact your kids for years. One of the biggest issue for single parents is consistency, because they are often the only ones applying the discipline. It is normal to get tired and to struggle with consistency, especially if your children are strong-willed, but the best advice I can give is to stand back, view the situation without emotion, and consistently apply the right discipline.   2. Lack of Money: Lack of money is a common struggle for many single parent families. Not only have you lost the income of your former partner, but you have to find a way to work or bring in income by yourself. Many single parents are holding down several job is to try and come up with the money necessary to allow the family to function properly. Many fall victim to “make money quick” schemes because they are so desperate for money. While there is no easy solution to this problem, you may need to ...

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What are the Advantages and Disadvantages of Single Parent Families?

What are the Advantages and Disadvantages of Single Parent Families?

With so many families today parented by single moms or dads, what are the advantages and disadvantages single parent families, and how can we make them better? Single parents often worry that their children will somehow be damaged from living in a single parent family. While a single parent family may not be the ideal situation for raising children, many two-parent families are also less than desirable. Kids can actually benefit from living in a single parent family, so here are a few of the advantages and disadvantages of living in a sole parent family. Disadvantages of Single Parent Families Some of the key disadvantages of single parent families include… 1. Time: Many aspects of parenting are far better if two of you were doing them, and things which are timing-based like trips to and from school, after-school sport and recreation things like dance classes or karate are much harder to do as a sole parent than in conjunction with another. 2. Discipline: Many children are experts at wearing you down, so discipline is often more difficult because the complaints and protests of your children are unrelenting. 3. Working: If you are working yourself, it is often more difficult to do without some sort of support, especially as you try and work your job situation into your children’s schooling or day-care. 4. Relationships: Starting a new relationship or dating can be difficult for single moms and dads, with the need for children to be minded and the concern about how the children will bond with the prospective partner.   Advantages of Single Parent Families 1. Discipline Discipline should be easier with two adults, but the reality is that it is often easier with only one especially if the other one fails to agree with the type of discipline involved. 2. ...

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The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The Single Parent Families Lifestyle

The single parent families lifestyle may be a unique and fascinating one. In shared child custody this runs specifically true, and the children may appear as if they are living a double life.  This lifestyle can be difficult for adults, never mind for a child, so the strains on single parent families and their lifestyle is most often higher than on other families, even though all sides love the kids. The Duality of the Single Parent Families Lifestyle Children seem to be living wholly different lives with each of the parents.  But somehow you are required to face and beat this manner of life for your children! Here I will discuss three areas you possibly can work on to try and minimize the potentially destructive nature of the single parent families lifestyle… Divide and Conquer The kids specialty, and especially in messy or nasty divorces.  Youngsters are experts at dividing and conquering the mother and father even in regular families, playing mom off against dad to get what they need.  This is even more extreme for separated parents because of the fact that the parents are already divided! The solution: You and your ex will need to start communicating on the critical issues.  If you can’t stand each other, it’s time to determine that you love the kids enough to put them first and at least start texting!  If you communicate you can make sure that the kid is not playing one of you off against the other and prevent a tragedy people and unaware couples in your situation face daily! Disciplining verses Fun It is possible that one parent might be fun but the other has got to discipline?  This could happen even in marriage or if couples stay together, so how much more for you.  But this method ...

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Coping with Children and Divorce

Coping with Children and Divorce

In a perfect world children and divorce would never be linked together. But we do not live in a perfect world, and with so many marriage and family breakdowns and single parent families out there, very often children and divorce are wrapped up together, to the detriment of both the parent and the child. We would like to think that every marriage was made in heaven and never needs help, but the fact is people change, relationships change and unfortunately divorce is the by-product of this. If you have experienced this you will know the emotional trauma and drama that separation can bring, but this can be magnified when it comes to kids. Bringing the Best Out of Parents, Children and Divorce! It is possible to bring the best out of both the parent and the child through a marriage separation, but it often takes both parents working extra hard to make this happen. The most important thing is that, despite how nasty or difficult the separation may be, that both parties continue to communicate with each other effectively and civilly, especially with regards anything that concerns the kids. Communication is the key! You need to communicate with your ex-about important matters like how to discipline your children, when to discipline them and the rules of the family. It is no good if they are punished for something in one family while in the other it is completely overlooked all laughed off. It is also important with how you relate to your children. You need to sit and talk to them about the family situation and the divorce, alerting them to what to expect, what visitation rights will be involved and continually reiterating that it is not their fault. The kids need to know that the breakdown in the relationship ...

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Being Single and Parenting Well

Being Single and Parenting Well

Being single and parenting well is attainable for most single parents, but it often takes more time and effort than for two parent families.  Yet being single and parenting presents some amazing and unique opportunities for single parents that, if managed correctly, can lead to incredible, productive, healthy and successful children and families.   Single and Parenting Can Go Together!   Many people automatically issue that being single and also a parent does not go together, but this is simply untrue. Granted, many single parents struggle to bring their children up effectively, and this is made worse if they are the sole breadwinner as well! Remember, bringing up kids was designed to be done by two parents, so that the load and the pressures could be shared, so doing it as a single is definitely more difficult.   That being said, you are better off being single and facing the stress of being a parent without help than trying to do it with a non-supportive or even disruptive partner in your life. If your partner is constantly undermining the decisions you are making or your attempts to discipline, then doing things alone and a single parent could be a better option for you and for your child.   However even single parents face the possibility of interference from a disruptive or non-supportive partner, even if they are divorced or separated. Many times parental decisions or moral rules are made, only to be underdone when the child visits the other parent! This is one of the aspects that make raising children as a single more difficult, so if this is the type of situation you find yourself then make sure that you are communicating well with your estranged partner, especially on matters concerning discipline and the social or moral standards you ...

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Struggles with Single Parent Families and Shared Custody

Struggles with Single Parent Families and Shared Custody

There are many struggles with single parent families which are unique, especially if the estranged mom or dad is still in the picture! Having two parents in a family gives them the opportunity to share the load and the burden together, and when things get too much you have the opportunity to sit and talk with someone who understands your situation. For single moms or dads this is not the case. Key Struggles with Single Parent Families and Shared Custody   One of the key problems has to do with shared custody, because sometimes your ex-partner is not going to share the same values and concerns that you have. In many cases, the kids are used as a pawn in an elaborate family game where parents try to use each child to attack their former partner. This is common behavior but it is very unfair on the kids and also on the adults. If you are parenting your family and want to do a great job despite the separation, here are some key struggles with single parent families and shared custody that you need to consider… Different values It is common in shared custody that each of the parents have different values when it comes to bringing up the family. One might be stronger on discipline while the other is very lax, or one might prefer junk food where the other insists on eating healthy.  Financial differences can also be a source of friction. These differences can take a happy family and cause them to turn on each other, and the pressure is greater if you are estranged.  The best advice is to sit with your ex-partner, decide to help one another in the family and talk each family problem through, so that even if you don’t get on well ...

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