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Young Single Mothers are Better than Their Reputation

Young Single Mothers are Better than Their Reputation

Without a doubt young single mothers have a less than stellar reputation when it comes to disciplining children and raising a family. Many people in our society look down on them, but I believe that young single mothers deserve our support, not our scorn, and that if we give them our support they can create successful families. Why are Young Single Mothers So Maligned? Young single mothers are often viewed as being “kids having kids”, and many look down on them because they assume they are promiscuous or stupid falling pregnant. However, it should be recognised that many young people are having sex, often with multiple partners, yet not all of these girls become mothers. Like most young people, girls think they are bullet proof and live the same lifestyle as everybody else, until something goes wrong and they discover that they are pregnant. Many of these girls do not abort their baby, but bravely face a future as a single mom, including the social stigma and the implications for their own dreams and desires in life. These girls should not be looked upon as whores but rather as heroes! What Single Mothers Give Up Young single mothers have to grow up quickly. They may have been fooling around and carefree when they fell pregnant, but they have to face the reality of a completely different life for the sake of their child.   1. They Give Up Fun! Most young mothers have to make the decision to give up fun, not being able to go out with their friends partying and relaxing. They may have their child minded occasionally, but the overall carefree lifestyle of youth has passed away for them.   2. They Give Up Their Dreams Most young girls have dreams for the future, and most of ...

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The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

The Right Way to Parent Teenagers Today

In our modern world parenting difficult teenagers has come to be increasingly hard , specially because they all have smartphones, Ipads, or computers, and this changes their communicating to friends and parents. Parenting teens has been tough because they’re experiencing so many changes themselves, and test the limits time and again.  Letting them go crazy by removing those limits could spell tragedy specially in the technology field, which is their prime means of communication. So here are some ideas on parenting your teenagers in the middle of modern technology… Use Technology to Communicate Teenagers communicate via technology today, so you should talk to them in the language they understand, be it texting, Facebook or chat.  Sitting chatting with them often causes them to clam up! Put Well Defined Limits and Consequences in Place It is important that you put well defined limits or boundaries in place for your teenager. This can include a curfew of 10 PM or a limit of two hours a day on the web. If they step beyond the boundaries, be sure you have well-defined consequences for this, spelled-out clearly from the start. That way, if they do step out of line you employ the consequences and there can be no arguments, screams or tears since they knew about it well in advance. Take Emotion Out of Discipline One of the leading mistakes parents make with difficult teenagers is that they react with emotion to everything that the teen says and does. When you have clearly defined limits and consequences, you can apply these without emotion and quickly take all the screening, cursing and threatening out of the equation. If you’re angry, step back, defuse the emotion within yourself, and apply the consequences. For more great ideas and techniques check out our website and make a ...

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Top Ten Tips of Parenting for Teenagers

Top Ten Tips of Parenting for Teenagers

When thinking about parenting for teenagers the thoughts can become terrifying.  Teenagers often seem so difficult to parent, and many of the things you might have learned with younger kids seem to lose their power when it comes to parenting.   So for all you worried moms and dads, here’s our Top Ten Tips about Parenting for Teenagers   Accept that Technology is Communication   Parenting for teenagers involves coming to grips with the way they communicate, and these days this means learning some technology.  Many teens won’t talk to you directly, or will do so very reluctantly, but what they will do is text or Facebook, so start texting them to have them share openly with you. Develop Trust both Ways Trust is a 2 way street, and if you expect your teen to be true to your trust, you need to make sure you are trustworthy also.   Don’t promise them things you do not deliver, like a weekend away or a new game. Let them follow their Interests Teenagers have interests, and while you cannot let these overtake learning for example, encourage them to explore what interests them and to express it.  Many will choose things like dancing, music, art or computer games, and set strict limits as to the time they can do things, but encourage them in it. Teach them about Money Managing money is something teenagers need to learn (as do we all!). Teach them early about the value of money, and delayed gratification, and teach them to save.  Also, teach them to budget, even on a small allowance.  These principles will never leave them if you do it correctly.  As well, let them experience the cost of the latest fashions and technologies, don’t just buy things for them.  They will soon learn that chasing ...

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10 Solutions to Teenage Pregnancy You can Share with Your Daughter?

10 Solutions to Teenage Pregnancy You can Share with Your Daughter?

We all realize that teenage pregnancy is a common thing, but are there solutions to teenage pregnancy and motherhood that you can talk to your teenager daughter about? Falling pregnant as a teen is common, especially given the frequency of sexual encounters among teens today.  Statistics suggest that more than 3 out of 10 American girls will fall pregnant by the age of twenty, and given that over half of all teenagers have had sex, this is not a fact that will go away! It is something we need to deal with as parents, so here are a few ideas on solutions to teenage pregnancy that you can share with your daughter… 10 Solutions to Teenage Pregnancy 1. You are Precious. Tell your daughter that she is valuable, a precious gift from God to you, and that she does not have to throw her life away for anybody, or any experience.  She’s smart, pretty and deserves the best in life, so she must not lower herself or cheapen herself.  She is your princess, and she should act like royalty! 2. Take it Slow. In any relationship with a guy, take it slow.  Sex should be nowhere near the agenda in the early stages of a relationship, and certainly not on the first date or two.  You lose nothing going slowly, so take a breath and slow down! 3. Keep Talking. Make sure your daughter can always talk to you about sex and relationships without you going off the deep end!  Be there for her, even if you don’t agree with her decisions.  If you keep lines of communication open, she will turn to you when her heart is broken, but if you condemn her you drive her away! 4. Never be Pressured to do what you Know is Not Right. ...

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10 Scary Facts about Single Teenage Mothers!

10 Scary Facts about Single Teenage Mothers!

Single teenage mothers face a difficult time bringing up their children, but they can make it.  When many of us see single teenage mothers we think that they are too young and too irresponsible to be mothers, but in thinking these things we do them a disservice. Here are 10 facts about Single Teenage Mothers You Should Know About Before your Criticize Them! 1. Any teen who is sexually active and fails to use contraception has a 90% chance of falling pregnant within 12 months. 2. 3 in 10 American girls will fall pregnant before the age of 20.  The reason, they are all playing the game of teenage sex. 3. Nearly 25% of single teenage mothers have a second child within 2 years of the birth of their first child. 4. The rates of African American and Hispanic teenagers giving birth is two and a half times that for white girls. 5. From 1990 to 2008, the rate of reported pregnancies among teenagers fell by 42%. 6. 8 out of 10 teenager dads do not marry the mother of their child. 7. Having a baby is the number one reason why single teenage mothers drop out of school.  In fact, more than half of teenage moms do not graduate high school. 8. Fewer than 2% of teenage moms will ever earn a college degree. 9. More than 50% of teenagers have never stopped to think about how having a baby would change their lives. 10. 100% of single teenage mothers need our support to make it   Teenagers experimenting with sex is common on the movies, TV shows and in popular music.  Many do this without contraception, or do it in response to peer pressure.  OK, they might have made mistakes, but then again who hasn’t?  As Jesus once ...

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Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century: Top Ten Tips

Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century: Top Ten Tips

When thinking about parenting for teenagers the thoughts can become terrifying.  Teenagers often seem so difficult to parent, and many of the things you might have learned with younger kids seem to lose their power when it comes to parenting for teenagers.   So for all you worried moms and dads, here’s our Top Ten Tips about Parenting for Teenagers in the 21st Century.   1. Develop Trust both Ways Trust is a 2 way street, and if you expect your teen to be true to your trust, you need to make sure you are trustworthy also.   Don’t promise them things you do not deliver, like a weekend away or a new game. 2. Teach them about Money Managing money is something teenagers need to learn (as do we all!). Teach them early about the value of money, and delayed gratification, and teach them to save.  Also, teach them to budget, even on a small allowance.  These principles will never leave them if you do it correctly.  As well, let them experience the cost of the latest fashions and technologies, don’t just buy things for them.  They will soon learn that chasing fashion is expensive! 3. Accept that Communication is Technology Parenting for teenagers involves coming to grips with the way they communicate, and these days this means learning some technology.  Many teens won’t talk to you directly, or will do so very reluctantly, but what they will do is text or Facebook, so start texting them to have them share openly with you. 4. Monitor Technology Kids love technology, and hand held devices are so common now, as is social media.  However, you need to make sure that you keep an eye on their social media involvement.  Who are they meeting online, and for what purpose?  Might take a ...

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Parenting Teenagers for Positive Results as a Single Parent

Parenting Teenagers for Positive Results as a Single Parent

Parenting teenagers for positive results is not as difficult as it sounds.  Staying positive when talking to or even disciplining your teenager can maintain an atmosphere of positiveness in the relationship, and this is a sense the child will take with them as they grow and develop.   As a single parent, your job will probably be more difficult, especially if you are experiencing problems from your ex-partner.  If they set out to undermine your authority with your teen at every opportunity, then you have a far more difficult situation, but still not an impossible one.   Parenting Teenagers Takes Real Commitment   If you are parenting your teen, it is going to take some real commitment on your part.  It is not enough to start setting boundaries and consequences for breaking them, only to give up and quit after a few weeks, or days.  You need to set fair and sensible boundaries, and lay out the consequences of disobedience, making sure that your teenager understands the reasoning behind them.   Then you have to stick to them like glue!   This once again is hard if they visit the ex and have no boundaries in place.  You get to feel that you are the bad cop, and they are the good one.  That you get all the tantrums and anger, but the ex gets to have all the fun.  So how can you overcome this situation and still stay sane and maintain your integrity?   The answer is to stay positive, even when you are disciplining your teen.  The easiest way to do this is to sit down with the child and lay out what the boundaries are, what the consequences they will experience if they transgress.  Do it in consultation with them, so that they know your reasoning ...

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Disciplining Teenagers as a Single without Driving Them Away: Top Ten!

Disciplining Teenagers as a Single without Driving Them Away: Top Ten!

Disciplining teenagers can be a nightmare, and can drive a huge wedge between the parents and kids. This is especially true for single parents, who often find themselves in a bidding war with their ex, each side spending more and disciplining less in an attempt to win the teenager’s affections. Why Disciplining Teenagers is Important Some people will tell you that once your child hits their teens you have really lost the opportunity to effectively discipline them.  This is simply not true, but you do have to modify the way in which you set about disciplining them.  The methods that work for a 5 year old or even a 10 year old tend not to work as well once your child hits their teens! So here’s our Top Ten Tips on how you can discipline teenagers effectively… 1. Make Your Rules Simple Disciplining teenagers needs to be kept simple, and your rules must make sense to them.  Choose important rules and learn to let some of the little things slide by without comment from you. 2. Make your Rules Clear Teens tend to have an overdeveloped sense of what is fair, and what is not.  If you keep your rules clear, and tell them before they transgress, then it will be a lot smoother sailing. If your ex constantly undermines them at their house, make sure they teen understands that your home is different. 3. Make the Consequences Proportional Teens need to feel that the consequences are not only fair, but also are in proportion to the disobedience.  I tend to be harder on defiance and rebellion than if they forget and stay out too late, or leave their room untidy.  Sometimes even a troublesome ex can understand and start to apply sensible, proportional rules, and then you have a ...

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Top Ten Techniques for Parenting Difficult Teenagers

Top Ten Techniques for Parenting Difficult Teenagers

Parenting difficult teenagers is always a challenge.  Part of the challenge is that you are starting late in the piece, and it can be a bit like trying to score a winning touchdown or goal in the last 30 seconds of a game!   Although parenting any teenager will try your patience and sometimes break your heart, the rewards are worth it.  The joy of watching a child grow out of the teenage years into a successful and much loved adult is worth any price, so here are some tips for how you can parent your teenagers, even if they are being difficult!  1. Give them Clear Rules Paradoxically rules allow us freedom.  As a general rule, teens with no boundaries set will be more destructive and actually more miserable!  Set fair and reasonable rules, and make sure the teen knows the consequences of breaking those rules before they do anything.  You cannot come in after the fact and inflict a punishment, because teens have a strong sense of what’s fair and that simple isn’t!  2. Make Sensible Rules When parenting any teenager, you need to pick your battles, so make sure your rules are sensible and fair.  Don’t make a Federal case over whether they eat their sprouts!  Choose more important things like when they get home and how they speak to people. 3. Set Reasonable Consequences For teenagers you need to match the consequences with the action, and deprivation of things they want is better than corporal punishment.  You can’t ground them for coming home after midnight and for not making their bed one day.  Save the big penalties for the big disobedience, and I would always recommend punishing open defiance and rebellion more than forgetfulness or miscalculation. 4. Be Consistent In any type of discipline, consistency is ...

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Top Ten Ideas for Raising a Teenager as a Single Parent

Top Ten Ideas for Raising a Teenager as a Single Parent

Raising a teenager is never an easy task and when you try to do it you can sometimes raise hell in the family. Is it worth it, especially if you are a single parent whose ex is undermining the entire process? I believe raising a teenager is always worth it, and you can minimize the hell and maximize the raising aspects. Here’s Our Top 10 Techniques for Raising a Teenager 1.    Be a Role Model to your Teenager Teens, like children, are looking for role models, and you are who they are looking at! In fact, they probably compare you to your ex, but remember this is not a popularity contest, it is about character.  If you sleep around, you cannot expect your child to do otherwise.  If you take drugs, you cannot expect them to refuse drugs. 2.    Set Reasonable Goals Sometimes we ask too much of our teenagers, wanting them to be drop dead gorgeous, world class athletes, brilliant at music and academically top of the class. Don’t burden your teen with unrealistic goals, but set reasonable goals, and help them to get there.  If they are low academically, for example, spend time with them or hire a tutor, but keep the expectations reasonable. 3.    Set Reasonable Limits is about setting limits and enforcing them.  What they can do and what they cannot do is an important part of their lives.  Giving into them is not going to make them love you in the long run.  However, when you set rules for your teenager, make sure they are reasonable, and that any consequences are fair as well.  Set limits in the important areas, and let the trivial ones go unchecked, in other words, pick your battles! 4.    Be True to Your Word If you promise your teenager something, ...

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