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What is good parenting and how can you achieve it as a single parent? These tips will not only give you an understanding of what is good parenting but also lay out steps you can take to achieve it!

Dealing with Blended Family Problems

Dealing with Blended Family Problems

You may be in love with your partner, but this doesn’t mean that you won’t face blended family problems. Your marriage may be heaven, but the step kids can make it hell, so here are some thoughts about how you can conquer blended family problems and have a peaceful, happy home. The Problem in Blended Families One woman said, “I love my husband, but wish I could divorce his kids!” This sums up how many step parents feel, and especially how they feel used and abused by their step children. Trying to parent kids in blended families can produce real problems and conflict, even between a loving couple because the birth father often tries to appease his children by taking their side against his new partner. You need to recognize that step families are born of loss. Often the remarried couple forget this, but the kids don’t! Also, step parents and step children do not necessarily love each other, especially if the kids are being influenced by the other biological parent. Step kids often feel pushed out of the parent-child relationship they once had with their biological parent, as can react against the new step parent. In addition, conflict over parenting styles can be huge! Spouses must talk to each other like a couple, while parents need to talk like parents to the children. Tips for solving Blended Family Problems 1. Put yourself in the stepchild’s place. They didn’t ask for the divorce or death, and they didn’t ask for you to come on the scene. 2. Make your marriage your number one priority. Seeing a strong, stable marriage can be great for kids who have been through a failed parent relationship 3. Be gracious, even when you try to be firm. Often it is the way you deliver discipline ...

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Good Parenting Techniques You Can Use Immediately!

Good Parenting Techniques You Can Use Immediately!

While there are quite a few good parenting techniques that you can learn, the most necessary thing is to start employing them. You most likely are overwhelmed with many other philosophies and ideas, but being a good parent concerns actually utilizing those tips, and that’s what I want to consider now. Good parenting takes not simply techniques and theories, so here are three practical tasks you can start doing now that will improve the way you parent your son or daughter. 1.    Spend Time with Your Kids If you would like to show your kids that you love them, spending time is one of the most important things you can do. Good parenting is about making time for your kids, on their terms instead of yours. So forcing them to go with you shopping is not exactly quality time, but taking them to the movies or their favourite restaurant is. 2.    Know Where They Are While we’re not promoting stalking your child, as a responsible parent you have to know where your children are, what they are doing and who they are doing it with. Letting your children get out of control is not good parenting. 3.    Screen Their Screens! Keeping tab on your child screen activity is part of modern parenting. Whether it is the web, on-line games, take sting or DVDs, guarantee that what they are watching and playing fits with your view of life, and limit them to around a couple of hours a day of screen based recreation. Learning any strategy is useless unless you applied, and in the case of your children it is more significant than ever. We have many methods to give out on our website, and it’s all free, so drop by for good parenting techniques you may apply right now.

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Top 5 Mistakes that Stop Singles Having a Good Parent-Child Relationship

Top 5 Mistakes that Stop Singles Having a Good Parent-Child Relationship

It is critical that every family has a good parent-child relationship. But having this relationship involves way more than just being liked by your kids… You ought to be like a teabag, where hot water brings your true color out. Top 5 Mistakes that Stop Singles Having a Good Parent-Child Relationship Single mothers and dads produce some classic mistakes in this area, but if you are serious and avoid these pitfalls you could have a good parent-child relationship. 1. Hoping to Be Their Friend Relating well to your child and staying close to them is brilliant! Having them trust you and share their personal hopes and dreams can also be great. But you must remember, your children need you being a parent not as a friend. They need to admire and respect you, and while you may still relate to them it can’t be as just a friend. If your youngster decides to spend time with their friends as opposed to you, don’t be hurt. Forcing your friendship on them in the company of their friends won’t be productive. Instead, be trustworthy, close to them and love them, or to put it differently, be a mom or dad not just a friend. 2. Manipulating Them Singles as a rule especially single mothers are extremely prone to manipulating their children. In a healthy relationship, if you want to have them to do something you simply need to ask truthfully and openly, not manipulate them or use a guilt trip to have the children obey you. You may feel like the process works, but in the grand scheme of things it will return to haunt you and may ruin your entire relationship with your children. 3. Providing Far too much Freedom A good relationship between a parent and a child needs rules, ...

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What Does it Mean to be a Good Parent? 10 Practical Things to Do!

What Does it Mean to be a Good Parent? 10 Practical Things to Do!

I want to be a good parent, and I’m sure you do too, but what does this actually mean?  Looking around in a public place you will see many people who are examples of bad parenting, so like you I know what I don’t want it to look like, but I also recognize that there is far more to being a good parent than simply having a well behaved child in public.   Here’s 10 Practical things you can do to become a Good Parent… 1. Be Consistent. This is one of the biggest things in becoming a good parent… consistency!  Whatever you promise a child as a consequence of their actions, always follow through with it, whether a reward or something they do not like.  Don’t modify the consequences to avoid a fight or make your life more comfortable or easier. 2. Screaming is Losing!  That’s right, if you reach a point of screaming, yelling or any other display of anger, you lose… immediately!  You lose your child’s respect, and the ability to positively influence your child.  Discipline should be applied without emotion, and without fear, because the consequences must be established before the offence is committed.  Then if they do the act, the consequences happen, it’s that simple! 3. Listen to your Kids.  You can ask questions of your child and their behaviour, but you also need to listen.  They often don’t need a lecture from you, especially if they know they have messed up, but you are far better asking why they did something, then listening to their answer.  Turn the TV off, close the lap top, put the magazine down and give your child your undivided attention.  They will love the fact you prioritized them over whatever you were doing, and you will learn about them ...

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Top Ten Good Parenting Techniques for Toddlers

Top Ten Good Parenting Techniques for Toddlers

Using Good Parenting techniques for toddlers can be a joy, but they can also just be hard work! Toddlers can offer you cuteness, happiness and playfulness one minute yet turn into a stubborn, defiant, rebellious psychopath the next!  Turning two can sometimes seem like the magic number when your little angel morphs into your worst nightmare, and without the right techniques for parenting them you face this terror alone!   So here is our Top Ten Good Parenting Techniques to help you Tame your Toddler!   1. Hug Them Yes, something as small as a hug can melt a defiant toddler’s heart and cool an explosive situation.  Touching children is important, and lets them feel loved and safe, so remember, hugs are your secret weapon! 2. Love with your Eyes If your toddler does something wrong you glare at them, but try softening your eyes.  They can sense how you are looking at them, whether you are mad, disappointed or proud, so look at them and love them with your eyes 3. Set firm boundaries with Firm Consequences Kids need rules!  I know there is a tendency to let them be ‘free spirits’, but you will make a rod for your own back and ultimately do them no favors if you do not have rules.  Rules are boundaries within which toddlers feel safe and protected.  So take the emotion out of it, set firm boundaries and have definite consequences for crossing these. 4. Always Follow Through Setting consequences is fine, but many parents especially single parents don’t go the distance.  Having set consequences, they give in to the toddler to make things easier or avoid a tantrum, and the child learns that tantrums work in getting their own way!  Set the consequence and stick to it, even if it upsets ...

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Being a Good Parent as a Single

Being a Good Parent as a Single

Being a good parent as a single mom or dad is possible and achievable.  It is certainly a harder ask than attempting this as part of a couple, but many would argue rightly that parenting alone is better than parenting with the wrong partner, or in an abusive relationship. Being a Good Parent takes more than Just Love! As a single parent I am sure that you love your children, but being a good parent is far more than that. In my charity running a home for young mothers, I have seen loads of girls who love their kids but cannot parent them properly, even to the point where the government removes them and places them in foster care.  Lots of love, sure, but no parenting skills! Beyond loving your children being a good parent means making some tough choices and providing real leadership in the home, even as a single parent.  It means learning our Top 10 parenting skills, and applying them consistently. And consistently is the key word! As a single parent you may not have someone with which to share the parenting load, discuss the situations you face or be there for you when you need help or a break.  If you lack a partner, I urge you to find someone else who can help, such as your mother, a close friend or an organization like the one I run, which is called Lily House. You may feel that you would like to stand on your own, but trust me, even if you don’t work full or part time, you still can benefit from support.  If you don’t have someone close to you, you can pay for things like child care or after school support. Sometimes being a good parent is about asking for help rather than ...

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What is Good Parenting?

What is Good Parenting?

What is good parenting and how does someone become a good at being a parent? Anyone who has children will have asked themselves this question at some time, and it is perhaps especially important for singles, because they have to learn to fulfill two roles in the lives of their children. Although this is a very complex subject, I would like to offer 2 simple methods you can apply to improve your skills in this area and become outstanding, even if you are single! So exactly what is good parenting? Being a good parent is far more than having a compliant, well-behaved child, but for many parents this appears to be the goal of their parenting. This is a very myopic view, and it is usually motivated by social concerns or a selfish desire on the part of the parent.  It goes far beyond this and helps develop their character as they prepare them for adult life. In years gone by many favored the use of harsh discipline with a child, and the goal was to produce a kid who was ‘seen and not heard’. I believe that this is a mistake, but many do this because they were subjected to this treatment themselves when they were young.  Many adults also compare their seemingly well-behaved children with other kids who are misbehaving and it makes them feel better, but are those kids able to change their effective behaviour to ultimately make them successful in life? Today many carry the scars of over discipline when they were young, and many are still haunted by the fact that they felt loved when they were obedient, but unloved if they made mistakes. Some even go the other way, failing to apply any discipline or control over their children because they suffered at the ...

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